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Hugs and Kisses and Covid 19

Would ever think that there would be a time in our lives when we couldn’t hug our children, spouse, lover, etc.? We are living in this time. When I saw my grandchildren the last time they were far away. I wanted desperately to hug and kiss them but it was not allowed.

Now with the three vaccines becoming available to all people, soon I will be able to hug my kids and grandkids.

We are human beings and we thrive on love and touching. Mental Health has taken a dive though out this pandemic.

Kids being out of school and away from their friends. Adults being out of family and friend contact. We are human beings and we need hugs and kisses, touching to be made to feel happy and alive.

Please get vaccinated

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Copyright Linda Meckler 2021

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For A Small Child a Huge Accomplishment is:

Boosting Self-Esteem

 Learning to tie shoes.

 Dressing.

Using a fork and cutting food.

Potty Training. If you are happy your child is happy.

 Picking up toys.

Picking up dirty clothes and putting them away in appropriate containers.

Cleaning their room.

 Playing nicely with siblings and friends.

  Sharing toys.

I Did That!

Children Are Afraid To Fail:

Boost Self-Esteem
 

Try Something New

Sometimes a child will not want to try something new because he/she are afraid of failure. This is when you need to say, “That is okay, you tried. That is all that counts there will always be a next time.” Add a hug and a pat on the back. These words and jesters go a long way in helping your child’s self-esteem.

Make A Child Feel Special

Another place for a child to cultivate self-esteem is in elementary school. Apart from the curriculum of reading, writing and math there should be a subject titled “Make A Child Feel Special.” The child will blossom. Children should be able to puff out their chests and say, “I did that!”

Whether it is a drawing or writing a short paragraph, a few words spoken to that child to encourage him/her to feel special will make their root blossom over and over again.

Teenagers

When a child grows up and becomes a teenage and his self-esteem is smashed in childhood, this is the time when the child could really damage himself emotionally and physically. Watch out for outrageous behavior, drugs, alcohol, gangs and maybe suicide.

As a teenager if his/her self-esteem had been cultivated and soared in childhood, they will be on their way to become positive adult role models. 

Young Adult

As a young adult, you need to start making choices about your education, career, and your spouse.  How you make these choices and live your normal, everyday lives from these decisions you have made in the past will follow you for the rest of your life.

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Questions For Lovers

This for women as well as for men. Before you do anything in your life you have to believe in yourself. If you want to be in a relationship you must believe that this is the right relationship for you. When you have decided ‘yes’ then you can move forward.

Do you remember your childhood?

What kind of child were you?

  • Shy?

  • Aggressive?

  • Social?

  • Other

Do you feel you could have done better?

Do you feel the choices you made were the best for you?

Do you feel that if you had more confidence in yourself you might have made other choices?

  • Education

  • Employment

  • Marriage

  • Apartment/House

  • Children

  • Pets

  • Location

What in your childhood made you feel special?

I found several reasons why self-esteem is so important to me. I remember being sent out into the cruel world to attend school and having to learn to stand on my own two feet. Even though I felt the love from my parents in my home, I never felt they gave me the extra push every child needs to achieve their full potential.

I have battled low self-esteem my entire life and I will share with you how I finally accomplished boosting my self-esteem and believing in myself.

For me it was writing. When I had to spend money to publish my first book Ghost Kids Trilogy I needed to boost my confidence. 

What was yours?

As an adult how you make these choices and live your normal everyday lives from these decisions you have made in the past will follow you for the rest of your life.

For some people, especially women, it is marriage. When your lover is unhappy, who do they take unhappiness out on – you the person closest to you.

Perhaps your lover is so miserable in his/her mind and body, he/ she has to make the people closest to you miserable. The people in our lives thrive on having enough power over us to inflict this mental prison on yourselves.

Your lover will usually take this mental and physical abuse because they feel trapped when small children are involved.

You do not even realize your self-esteem has been smashed into a thousand pieces. When you are reminded of what a terrible person you are by your lover, you believe it. 

Making a drastic change in your life terrifies you. You would rather go on in this pattern instead of rocking the boat.

Suddenly, one day, something earth-shattering happens. Maybe it’s the death of a family member or child or maybe it’s something else. Life as you know it has ended. Now you have to make a life-changing decision.

Big Decision

  • Move

  • Paint your house

  • Paint your walls

  • Employment

  • Education

  • Hobby

  • Join a group

  • Join a church

  • Visit family

  • Visit friends

  • Call family/friends

  • Jog

  • Swim

  • Basketball

  • Football

  • Baseball

  • Write your feelings

  • Write a blog

  • Write a book

  • Etc.

The world is immense. Don’t get lost in it. Some of this was taken from my book Questions for Lovers

Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read all my other articles.

Copyright Linda Meckler 2021

 

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Covid and Relationships

Remember a year ago when you and your heartthrob would go to bed together in the same bed. When sex was a good thing. Now having sex with your heartthrob can kill you. The world turns on its axis and never stays in one place. But we are human beings and we do not stay in one spot. We move, groove, love, kiss, hug. What is wrong with this sentence. What is wrong is that was the past. Now is the Covid 19. Times have changed and we have to change with them.

How heart-wrenching is it when mothers can’t hug their children? When grandparents can’t hug their children or grandchildren. The way of communication Is by electronics. Yes, a picture is nice, and talking online is nice but it does not cover the basic need of touch.

There is a blue sky at the end of this horrible year.  There are now three serums and in a few months, everybody that wants to will be able to go back to sleeping in the same bed as their heartthrob, touch, kiss, and have sex.

What do you think?

Thank you for reading my article Linda Meckler

Copyright 2021

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Questions For Lovers

Questions for Lovers

Make the sparks fly either in a new relationship or long term. This is the newest book I wrote and published. I am excited about it. It is a book everyone should read if they are entering into a new relationship or are in a long-term relationship.

When entering into a long-term relationship there are questions for each lover to discuss with each other.

If you are in a long-term relationship the questions can open communication between you and your heartthrob.

There are also some things you can do to make your bodies sizzle.

Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read my other articles on various subject.

Copyright 2021   Linda Meckler