This for women as well as for men. Before you do anything in your life you have to believe in yourself. If you want to be in a relationship you must believe that this is the right relationship for you. When you have decided ‘yes’ then you can move forward.
Do you remember your childhood?
What kind of child were you?
- Shy?
- Aggressive?
- Social?
- Other
Do you feel you could have done better?
Do you feel the choices you made were the best for you?
Do you feel that if you had more confidence in yourself you might have made other choices?
- Education
- Employment
- Marriage
- Apartment/House
- Children
- Pets
- Location
What in your childhood made you feel special?
I found several reasons why self-esteem is so important to me. I remember being sent out into the cruel world to attend school and having to learn to stand on my own two feet. Even though I felt the love from my parents in my home, I never felt they gave me the extra push every child needs to achieve their full potential.
I have battled low self-esteem my entire life and I will share with you how I finally accomplished boosting my self-esteem and believing in myself.
For me it was writing. When I had to spend money to publish my first book Ghost Kids Trilogy I needed to boost my confidence.
What was yours?
As an adult how you make these choices and live your normal everyday lives from these decisions you have made in the past will follow you for the rest of your life.
For some people, especially women, it is marriage. When your lover is unhappy, who do they take unhappiness out on – you the person closest to you.
Perhaps your lover is so miserable in his/her mind and body, he/ she has to make the people closest to you miserable. The people in our lives thrive on having enough power over us to inflict this mental prison on yourselves.
Your lover will usually take this mental and physical abuse because they feel trapped when small children are involved.
You do not even realize your self-esteem has been smashed into a thousand pieces. When you are reminded of what a terrible person you are by your lover, you believe it.
Making a drastic change in your life terrifies you. You would rather go on in this pattern instead of rocking the boat.
Suddenly, one day, something earth-shattering happens. Maybe it’s the death of a family member or child or maybe it’s something else. Life as you know it has ended. Now you have to make a life-changing decision.
Big Decision
- Move
- Paint your house
- Paint your walls
- Employment
- Education
- Hobby
- Join a group
- Join a church
- Visit family
- Visit friends
- Call family/friends
- Jog
- Swim
- Basketball
- Football
- Baseball
- Write your feelings
- Write a blog
- Write a book
- Etc.
The world is immense. Don’t get lost in it. Some of this was taken from my book Questions for Lovers
Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read all my other articles.
Copyright Linda Meckler 2021