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Covid 19 and Fussy Eaters

Volunteers 

Now with Covid 19 there are many people out of work, their business closing, and food is hard to come by. Fortunately, there are many food banks opening to help people in need. If you have a fussy eater in your home, now they might not be as fussy. Starvation and being hungry are ways to make the fussy eater, eat what is available. Volunteers have sprung up all over America to answer this gigantic problem.

Kitchen Table

Many people being stuck at home are starting to cook. Experimenting with new dishes, and baking.  YouTube is being watched more now than ever before. Eating around a table is a great way to talk, and reconnect with your family. Today many people eat in front of the television or computer and conversation among the most important people in their lives is lost.

Try Something New

How to cook. How to paint. How to sew.  How to repair anything. People are being creative to make their business work and bring in the income needed for their family. Yes, being stuck in the home is boring but think of it as a learning experience. Make use of the family time. Outside is being used by many people for exercise and to speak to their neighbors and friends. Walking, bike riding, running, baseball, football. Come on people turn of the television and explore the outside of your home. Your life revolves and with the Covid 19 we need to revolve to learn about you, and your family. Cheer up with the three new serums life should go back to normal soon. Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read my other articles. Copyright Linda Meckler 2021

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History Of The Rose Parade

What does Art have to do with the Rose Parade? The answer is everything.

History

In 1890 Charles Holder a member of the Hunt Club was speaking in New York bragging about Pasadena, California and the beautiful flowers in bloom while they were under tons of snow.

Carriage Rose Parade

The club organized carriages decorated with flowers from their own garden onto their carriages and paraded down Colorado Avenue. Also included in this was foot races, polo matches, and a tug of war. This grew a crowd of 2000. The Rose Parade was born later called the Tournament of Roses.  It was held on Sunday after the New Year. Sunday was the day it would not disturb the horses hitched on the street.

Volunteers

The Tournament of Roses has become such a large event that it requires 65,000 hours of the combination of people working together. or the equivalent of roughly 7.42 years of success.

The group has 935 members, each of whom is assigned to one of 34 committees, and around 50 student ambassadors. The volunteers wear while with a red tie.

The creativity of this awesome event put on each year would boggle the mind if it wasn’t organized down to the last detail.

To Do List

  • The sketching of the floats, which in most cases now are built by professionals.
  •  Creating the animal or object to be decorated.
  • The placement of the flowers and how many flowers and what colors and kinds are needed.
  • The painting of the designs which are included on the floats.
  • The costumes which are in some cases designed and hand made.

Art and creativity are everywhere, inspiration is buzzing around this specular parade. Approximates 48 -72 hours before the parade the flowers are placed on the floats. Exhaustion is the end of the day. 

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For A Small Child a Huge Accomplishment is:

Boosting Self-Esteem

 Learning to tie shoes.

 Dressing.

Using a fork and cutting food.

Potty Training. If you are happy your child is happy.

 Picking up toys.

Picking up dirty clothes and putting them away in appropriate containers.

Cleaning their room.

 Playing nicely with siblings and friends.

  Sharing toys.

I Did That!

Children Are Afraid To Fail:

Boost Self-Esteem
 

Try Something New

Sometimes a child will not want to try something new because he/she are afraid of failure. This is when you need to say, “That is okay, you tried. That is all that counts there will always be a next time.” Add a hug and a pat on the back. These words and jesters go a long way in helping your child’s self-esteem.

Make A Child Feel Special

Another place for a child to cultivate self-esteem is in elementary school. Apart from the curriculum of reading, writing and math there should be a subject titled “Make A Child Feel Special.” The child will blossom. Children should be able to puff out their chests and say, “I did that!”

Whether it is a drawing or writing a short paragraph, a few words spoken to that child to encourage him/her to feel special will make their root blossom over and over again.

Teenagers

When a child grows up and becomes a teenage and his self-esteem is smashed in childhood, this is the time when the child could really damage himself emotionally and physically. Watch out for outrageous behavior, drugs, alcohol, gangs and maybe suicide.

As a teenager if his/her self-esteem had been cultivated and soared in childhood, they will be on their way to become positive adult role models. 

Young Adult

As a young adult, you need to start making choices about your education, career, and your spouse.  How you make these choices and live your normal, everyday lives from these decisions you have made in the past will follow you for the rest of your life.

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Mouse Clicking and Hand Pain

Living in Pain

Do you go to work in pain? Hand pain? Back Pain? Shoulder Pain?  Any kind of pain.

Whatever kind of pain you have it is miserable to sit or stand for hours in this pain. But what choice do you have? You have to make a living. You have to have a roof over your head, food, and utilities.

For me it was hand pain. I would sit at a computer and work for eight hours a day. I would cry on the way home. Driving was even painful. What do you do?

Mouse clicking was the worst. My hand would become weak, and go numb.

 I have heard from more people lately about how painful it is for them to click a mouse. Now most people would say that is ridiculous. How can a simple mouse cause pain?

Well, I am going to tell you it can and does. With the use of various kinds of software mouse clicking is the only way to achieve your end result. Now with scanners in the work place mouse clicking is taking off in leaps and bounds.

Hand pain from clicking a mouse is going to escalate out of control if it hasn’t already.

Switch Hands

I am right-handed and I have my mouse on my left side. I have trained my hand and my brain. It took a couple of weeks but now I am a left-handed mouse clicker.

Three Fingers

Another way to click a mouse is by putting your three middle fingers together and clicking. That way there is less pressure on the tendon.

Palm of Hand

Also, try draping the palm of your hand on top of the mouse and clicking with the side of your hand.

All these ideas I have tried and they all came from hand therapists I have used in the past.

Maybe, you have some other ideas or someday there will be a new method to achieve a mouse click without clicking a mouse. I do hope so.

Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read all of my articles. Copyright 2006 updated 2021 Linda Meckler

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Samuel T. Coleridge the Eccentric Poet

Samuel T. Coleridge is one of the most important figures in English poetry. His poems influenced all the major poets of the age. He was known by his contemporaries as a meticulous craftsman who was more rigorous in his careful reworking of his poems than any other poet, and Southey and Wordsworth were dependent on his professional advice. His influence on Wordsworth is particularly important because many critics have credited Coleridge with the very idea of Conversational Poetry. The idea of utilizing common, everyday language to express profound poetic images and ideas for which Wordsworth became famous may have originated in Coleridge’s mind. It is difficult to imagine Wordsworth’s great poems, The Excursion or The Prelude, ever having been written without the direct influence of Coleridge’s originality.

As important as Coleridge was to poetry as a poet, he was equally important to poetry as a critic. His philosophy of poetry, which he developed over many years, has been deeply influential in the field of literary criticism. 

CHILDHOOD

Samuel T. Coleridge was born on 21 October 1772 in the town of Ottery St Mary in Devon, England. Samuel’s father was the Reverend John Coleridge (1718–1781), the well-respected vicar of St Mary’s Church, Ottery St Mary and was headmaster of the King’s School, a free grammar school established by King Henry VIII (1509–1547) in the town. He had three children by his first wife. Samuel was the youngest of ten by the Reverend Mr. Coleridge’s second wife, Anne Bowden (1726–1809). Samuel didn’t like sports but instead read “incessantly” and played by himself. 

Early Education

 

After his father died in 1781, eight-year-old Samuel was sent to Christ’s Hospital, a charity school which was founded in the 16th century in Greyfriars, London, where he remained throughout his childhood, studying and writing poetry. At that school Coleridge became friends with Charles Lamb, a schoolmate, and studied the works of Virgil and William Lisle Bowles. At six years old he read Belisarius, Robinson Crusoe, Philip Quarll, and Arabian Nights. He learned from  and Shakespeare and Milton. He learned from them that Poetry, even that of the loftiest, and, seemingly, that of the wildest odes, had a logic of its own, as severe as that of science; and more difficult, because more subtle, more complex, and dependent on more, and more fugitive causes.

JESUE COLLEGE

From 1791 until 1794, Coleridge attended Jesus College, Cambridge. “In 1792, he won the Browne Gold Medal for an ode that he wrote on the slave trade. In December 1793, he left the college and enlisted in the 15th (The King’s) Light Dragoons using the false name “Silas Tomkyn Comberbache. His brothers arranged for his discharge a few months later under the reason of “insanity” and he was readmitted to Jesus College, but never receive a degree from the university. At Jesus College, Coleridge was introduced to political and theological ideas then considered radical, including those of the poet Robert Southey with whom he collaborated on the play The Fall of Robespierre. Coleridge. The two friends founded  a utopian commune-like society, called Pantisocracy, in the wilderness of Pennsylvania. In 1795, the two friends married sisters Sara and Edith Fricker, in St Mary Redcliffe, Bristol. He was unhappy and after the birth of their fourth child he left the marriage.

POEMS ON VARIOUS SUBJECTS

In 1796 he released his first volume of poems entitled Poems on various subjects, which also included four poems by Charles Lamb as well as a collaboration with Robert Southey and a work suggested by his and Lamb’s schoolfriend Robert Favell. Among the poems were Religious MusingsMonody on the Death of Chatterton and an early version of The Eolian Harp entitled Effusion 35. A second edition was printed in 1797, this time including an appendix of works by Lamb and Charles Lloyd, a young poet to whom Coleridge had become a private tutor. In 1796 he also privately printed Sonnets from Various Authors, including sonnets by Lamb, Lloyd, Southey and himself as well as older poets such as William Lisle Bowles.

COLERIDGE COTTAGE

The years 1797 and 1798, during which he lived in what is now known as Coleridge Cottage, in Nether Stowey, Somerset, were among the most fruitful of Coleridge’s life. In 1795, Coleridge met poet William Wordsworth and his sister DorothyThe Rime of the Ancient Mariner, Coleridge composed the symbolic poem Kubla Khan, this came from an opium induced dream. Coleridge and Wordsworth published a joint volume of poetry, Lyrical Ballads, which proved to be the starting point for the English romantic age. Wordsworth may have contributed more poems, but the real star of the collection was Coleridge’s first version of The Rime of the Ancient Mariner. It was the longest work and drew more praise and attention than anything else in the volume.

MARY STREET UNITARIAN CHAPEL

 In 1798 he preached at the Mary Street Unitarian Chapel.  William Hazlitt, a Unitarian minister’s son, was in the congregation, having walked from Wem to hear him. Coleridge received a letter from Josiah Wedgwood II, who had offered to help him out of financial difficulties with an annuity of £150 per year on condition he give up his ministerial career. Coleridge accepted this.

TRAVELING

From 16 September 1798, Coleridge and the Wordsworth’s left for a stay in Germany; Coleridge soon went his own way and spent much of his time in university towns. In February 1799 he enrolled at the University of Göttingen, where he attended lectures by Johann Friedrich Blumenbach and Johann Gottfried Eichhorn. He became interested in German philosophy, especially the transcendental idealism and critical philosophy of Immanuel Kant, and in the literary criticism of the 18th-century dramatist Gotthold Lessing. Coleridge studied German and, after his return to England, translated the dramatic trilogy Wallenstein by the German Classical poet Friedrich Schiller into English. He continued to pioneer these ideas through his own critical writings for the rest of his life.

SOCKBURN

In 1799, Coleridge and the Wordsworth’s stayed at Thomas Hutchinson’s farm on the River Tees at Sockburn, near Darlington.

It was at Sockburn that Coleridge wrote his ballad-poem Love, addressed to Sara Hutchinson. The poem was a direct inspiration for John Keats‘ famous poem La Belle Dame Sans Merci.

Coleridge’s early intellectual debts, besides German idealists like Kant and critics like Lessing, were first to William Godwin‘s Political Justice, especially during his Pantisocratic period, and to David Hartley‘s Observations on Man, which is the source of the psychology which is found in Frost at Midnight.

Coleridge was critical of the literary taste of his contemporaries, and a literary conservative insofar as he was afraid that the lack of taste in the ever-growing masses of literate people would mean a continued desecration of literature itself.

ENGLAND

In 1800, he returned to England and shortly thereafter settled with his family and friends in Greta Hall at Keswick in the Lake District of Cumberland to be near Grasmere, where Wordsworth had moved. He was a houseguest of the Wordsworth’s his dependency on laudanum grew and his frequent nightmares would wake the children. He was a fussy eater.

In 1802, Coleridge took a nine-day walking holiday in the fells of the Lake District. Coleridge is credited with the first recorded descent of Scafell to Mickledore via Broad Stand.

A Christmas Carol 1772-1834

   The Shepherds went their hasty way,
        And found the lowly stable-shed
   Where the Virgin-Mother lay:
        And now they checked their eager tread,
For to the Babe, that at her bosom clung,
A Mother’s song the Virgin-Mother sung.

   They told her how a glorious light,
         Streaming from a heavenly throng,
   Around them shone, suspending night!
         While sweeter than a Mother’s song,
Blest Angels heralded the Savior’s birth,
Glory to God on high! and Peace on Earth.

   She listened to the tale divine,
         And closer still the Babe she pressed;
   And while she cried, the Babe is mine!
         The milk rushed faster to her breast:
Joy rose within her, like a summer’s morn;
Peace, Peace on Earth! the Prince of Peace is born.

   Thou Mother of the Prince of Peace,
         Poor, simple, and of low estate!
   That Strife should vanish, Battle cease,
         O why should this thy soul elate?
Sweet Music’s loudest note, the Poet’s story,
Did’st thou ne’er love to hear of Fame and Glory?

   And is not War a youthful King,
         A stately Hero clad in Mail?
   Beneath his footsteps laurels spring;
         Him Earth’s majestic monarchs hail
Their Friend, their Playmate! and his bold bright eye
Compels the maiden’s love-confessing sigh.

   “Tell this in some more courtly scene,
         “To maids and youths in robes of state!
   “I am a woman poor and mean,
         “And therefore is my Soul elate.
“War is a ruffian, all with guilt defiled,
“That from the aged Father tears his Child!

   “A murderous fiend, by fiends adored,
         “He kills the Sire and starves the Son;
   “The Husband kills, and from her board
         “Steals all his Widow’s toil had won;
“Plunders God’s world of beauty; rends away
“All safety from the Night, all comfort from the Day.

   “Then wisely is my soul elate,
         “That Strife should vanish, Battle cease:
   “I’m poor and of a low estate,
         “The Mother of the Prince of Peace.
“Joy rises in me, like a summer’s morn:
“Peace, Peace on Earth, the Prince of Peace is born.”   

This poem is in the public domain.

ACTING PUBLIC SECRETARY OF MALTA

In 1804, he travelled to Sicily and Malta, working for a time as Acting Public Secretary of Malta under the Civil Commissioner, Alexander Ball, a task he performed successfully. He lived in San Anton Palace in the village of Attard. He returned to England in 1806. From 1807 to 1808, Coleridge returned to Malta and then travelled in Sicily and Italy. Coleridge became a full-blown opium addict, using the drug as a substitute for the lost vigor and creativity of his youth.

He separated from his wife Sara in 1808, quarreled with Wordsworth in 1810, lost part of his annuity in 1811, and put himself under the care of Dr. Daniel in 1814. His addiction caused severe constipation, which required regular and humiliating enemas.

THE FRIEND

In 1809, Coleridge became a newspaper publisher with the publication of the journal entitled The Friend. Coleridge was disorganized and had no head for business. Coleridge financed the journal by selling over five hundred subscriptions, some members of Parliament. In 1809, the publication was crippled by a financial crisis and Coleridge had to have financial help.  Conversation Sharp  and Tom Poole and other friends came to his rescue. Years after its initial publication, a revised and expanded edition of The Friend, with added philosophical content including his ‘Essays on the Principles of Method’, became a highly influential work and its effect was felt on writers and philosophers from John Stuart Mill to Ralph Waldo Emerson.

 

LONDON FINAL YEARS

Between 1810 and 1820, Coleridge gave a series of lectures in London and Bristol – those on Shakespeare renewed interest in the playwright as a model for contemporary writers. Much of Coleridge’s reputation as a literary critic is founded on the lectures that he undertook in the winter of 1810–11, which were sponsored by the Philosophical Institution and given at Scot’s Corporation Hall off Fetter Lane, Fleet Street.

These lectures were heralded in the prospectus as “A Course of Lectures on Shakespeare and Milton, in Illustration of the Principles of Poetry.” Coleridge’s ill-health, opium-addiction problems, and somewhat unstable personality meant that all his lectures were plagued with problems of delays and a general irregularity of quality from one lecture to the next. However, it was the lecture on Hamlet given on January 2, 1812 that was considered the best and has influenced Hamlet studies ever since. Before Coleridge, Hamlet was often denigrated and belittled by critics from Voltaire to Dr. Johnson. Coleridge rescued the play’s reputation, and his thoughts on it are often still published as supplements to the text.

In 1812 he allowed Robert Southey to make use of extracts from his vast number of private notebooks in their collaboration Omniana; Or, Horae Otiosiores.

In August 1814, Coleridge was approached by Lord Byron‘s publisher, John Murray, about the possibility of translating Goethe’s classic Faust (1808). Coleridge was regarded by many as the greatest living writer on the demonic and he accepted the commission, only to abandon work on it after six weeks. Until recently, scholars were in agreement that Coleridge never returned to the project, despite Goethe’s own belief in the 1820s that he had in fact completed a long translation of the work. In September 2007, Oxford University Press sparked a heated scholarly controversy by publishing an English translation of Goethe’s work that purported to be Coleridge’s long-lost masterpiece (the text in question first appeared anonymously in 1821).

Between 1814 and 1816, Coleridge lived in Calne, Wiltshire and seemed able to focus on his work and manage his addiction, drafting Biographia Literaria. He rented rooms from a local surgeon, Mr. Page, on Church Street, just opposite the entrance to the churchyard. A blue plaque marks the property today.

In April 1816, Coleridge, with his addiction worsening, his spirits depressed, and his family alienated, took residence in the Highgate homes, then just north of London, of the physician James Gillman, first at South Grove and later at the nearby 3 The Grove. It is unclear whether his growing use of opium and brandy caused his depression.

In Gillman’s home, Coleridge finished his major prose work, the Biographia Literaria (mostly drafted in 1815, and finished in 1817), a volume composed of 23 chapters of autobiographical notes and dissertations on various subjects, including some incisive literary theory and criticism. He composed a considerable amount of poetry, of variable quality. He published other writings while he was living at the Gillman homes, notably the Lay Sermons of 1816 and 1817, Sibylline Leaves (1817), Hush (1820), Aids to Reflection (1825), and On the Constitution of the Church and State (1830). He also produced essays published shortly after his death, such as Essay on Faith (1838) and Confessions of an Inquiring Spirit (1840).

Coleridge also worked extensively on the various manuscripts which form his “Opus Maximum”, a work which was in part intended as a post-Kantian work of philosophical synthesis. The work was never published in his lifetime, and hastily been seen as evidence for his tendency to start projects and never completing.  Critics are divided on whether the “Opus Maximum”, first published in 2002, successfully resolved the philosophical issues he had been exploring for most of his adult life.

Death 1834

Coleridge died in Highgate, London on 25 July 25, 1834 as a result of heart failure compounded by a lung disorder. Coleridge had spent 18 years under the roof of the Gillman family, who built an addition onto their home to accommodate the poet.

Highgate) whispering strange things, uncertain whether oracles or jargon.”

REMAINS

Coleridge is buried in the aisle of St. Michael’s Parish Church in Highgate, London. He was originally buried at Old Highgate Chapel but was re-interred in St. Michael’s in 1961. When it was discovered Coleridge’s vault had become derelict, the coffins Coleridge’s and those of his wife, daughter, son-in-law, and grandson were moved to St. Michael’s after an international fundraising appeal.

Drew Clode, a member of St. Michael’s stewardship committee states, “they put the coffins in a convenient space which was dry and secure, and quite suitable, bricked them up and forgot about them.” A recent excavation revealed the coffins were not in the location most believed, but below a memorial slab in the nave inscribed with: “Beneath this stone lies the body of Samuel Taylor Coleridge”.

t. Michael’s plans to restore the crypt and allow public access. Says vicar Kunle Ayodeji of the plans: “we hope that the whole crypt can be cleared as a space for meetings and other uses, which would also allow access to Coleridge’s cellar.”

THE CONVERSATION POEMS

Coleridge is arguably best known for his longer poems, The Rime of the Ancient Mariner and Christabel. Even those who have never read the Rime have come under its influence: its words have given the English language the metaphor of an albatross around one’s neck, the quotation of “water, water everywhere, nor any drop to drink” (almost always rendered as “but not a drop to drink”), and the phrase “a sadder and a wiser man” (usually rendered as “a sadder but wiser man”). The phrase “All creatures great and small” may have been inspired by The Rime: “He prayeth best, who loveth best; All things both great and small; For the dear God who loveth us; He made and loveth all.” Christabel is known for its musical rhythm, language, and its Gothic tale.

Kubla Khan, or, A Vision in a Dream, A Fragment, although shorter, is also widely known. Both Kubla Khan and Christabel have an additional “Romantic” aura because they were never finished. Stopford Brooke characterized both poems as having no rival due to their “exquisite metrical movement” and “imaginative phrasing.”

THE CONVERSATION POEMS

Main article: Conversation poems

The Eolian Harp (1795) Reflections on having left a Place of Retirement (1795) This Lime-Tree Bower my Prison (1797) Frost at Midnight (1798) Fears in Solitude (1798) The Nightingale: A Conversation Poem (1798) Dejection: An Ode (1802) To William Wordsworth1807)  DISCUSSION   

The eight of Coleridge’s poems listed above are now often discussed as a group entitled “Conversation poems.” The term itself was coined in 1928 by George McLean Harper, who borrowed the subtitle of The Nightingale: A Conversation Poem (1798) to describe the seven other poems as well. The poems are considered by many critics to be among Coleridge’s finest verses; thus Harold Bloom has written, “With Dejection, The Ancient Mariner, and Kubla Khan, Frost at Midnight shows Coleridge at his most impressive.” They are also among his most influential poems, as discussed further below.

Harper himself considered that the eight poems represented a form of blank verse that is more-fluent and easy than Milton’s, or any that had been written since Milton. In 2006 Robert Koelzer wrote about another aspect of this apparent “easiness”, noting that Conversation poems such as “… Coleridge’s The Eolian Harp and The Nightingale maintain a middle register of speech, employing an idiomatic language that is capable of being construed as un-symbolic and un-musical: language that lets itself be taken as ‘merely talk’ rather than rapturous ‘song.”

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Fight Your Medical Insurance Nightmares!! Let Me Show You How

This is a book I wrote when I worked in hospital billing. I couldn’t believe how many people did not know how their insurance worked. Do you?

It can be any insurance plan. Do you know how it works? Why you pay for a specific amount for your doctors visit and someone else pays another amount?

Contracts

Is the mystery word which we all need to know and how it works for you.

Your insurance program is contracted with a specific Physician, Hospital, Hospital, Laboratory, X-ray, etc. It depends upon the contracted rate which was established at the time the contract was signed.

Most physicians try to get onto as many medical plans they can. Sometimes the plan is full and the physician can’t get on a certain plan.

In case of an emergency, you could end up in a hospital which is not contracted with the hospital you were taken. Your (EOB) or explanation of Benefits with deny the charge and say, “Your hospital was not contracted with our insurance. Or words to that effect and will not be paid Then the bill needs to be appealed.

Appeal

In my book are sample letters of appeal letters. I have written hundreds of these in my time on the job force. Also, personal stories of nightmares I had trying to get my bill paid.

 

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Questions For Lovers

This for women as well as for men. Before you do anything in your life you have to believe in yourself. If you want to be in a relationship you must believe that this is the right relationship for you. When you have decided ‘yes’ then you can move forward.

Do you remember your childhood?

What kind of child were you?

  • Shy?

  • Aggressive?

  • Social?

  • Other

Do you feel you could have done better?

Do you feel the choices you made were the best for you?

Do you feel that if you had more confidence in yourself you might have made other choices?

  • Education

  • Employment

  • Marriage

  • Apartment/House

  • Children

  • Pets

  • Location

What in your childhood made you feel special?

I found several reasons why self-esteem is so important to me. I remember being sent out into the cruel world to attend school and having to learn to stand on my own two feet. Even though I felt the love from my parents in my home, I never felt they gave me the extra push every child needs to achieve their full potential.

I have battled low self-esteem my entire life and I will share with you how I finally accomplished boosting my self-esteem and believing in myself.

For me it was writing. When I had to spend money to publish my first book Ghost Kids Trilogy I needed to boost my confidence. 

What was yours?

As an adult how you make these choices and live your normal everyday lives from these decisions you have made in the past will follow you for the rest of your life.

For some people, especially women, it is marriage. When your lover is unhappy, who do they take unhappiness out on – you the person closest to you.

Perhaps your lover is so miserable in his/her mind and body, he/ she has to make the people closest to you miserable. The people in our lives thrive on having enough power over us to inflict this mental prison on yourselves.

Your lover will usually take this mental and physical abuse because they feel trapped when small children are involved.

You do not even realize your self-esteem has been smashed into a thousand pieces. When you are reminded of what a terrible person you are by your lover, you believe it. 

Making a drastic change in your life terrifies you. You would rather go on in this pattern instead of rocking the boat.

Suddenly, one day, something earth-shattering happens. Maybe it’s the death of a family member or child or maybe it’s something else. Life as you know it has ended. Now you have to make a life-changing decision.

Big Decision

  • Move

  • Paint your house

  • Paint your walls

  • Employment

  • Education

  • Hobby

  • Join a group

  • Join a church

  • Visit family

  • Visit friends

  • Call family/friends

  • Jog

  • Swim

  • Basketball

  • Football

  • Baseball

  • Write your feelings

  • Write a blog

  • Write a book

  • Etc.

The world is immense. Don’t get lost in it. Some of this was taken from my book Questions for Lovers

Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read all my other articles.

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Covid and Relationships

Remember a year ago when you and your heartthrob would go to bed together in the same bed. When sex was a good thing. Now having sex with your heartthrob can kill you. The world turns on its axis and never stays in one place. But we are human beings and we do not stay in one spot. We move, groove, love, kiss, hug. What is wrong with this sentence. What is wrong is that was the past. Now is the Covid 19. Times have changed and we have to change with them.

How heart-wrenching is it when mothers can’t hug their children? When grandparents can’t hug their children or grandchildren. The way of communication Is by electronics. Yes, a picture is nice, and talking online is nice but it does not cover the basic need of touch.

There is a blue sky at the end of this horrible year.  There are now three serums and in a few months, everybody that wants to will be able to go back to sleeping in the same bed as their heartthrob, touch, kiss, and have sex.

What do you think?

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Questions For Lovers

Questions for Lovers

Make the sparks fly either in a new relationship or long term. This is the newest book I wrote and published. I am excited about it. It is a book everyone should read if they are entering into a new relationship or are in a long-term relationship.

When entering into a long-term relationship there are questions for each lover to discuss with each other.

If you are in a long-term relationship the questions can open communication between you and your heartthrob.

There are also some things you can do to make your bodies sizzle.

Thank you for reading my article. Please feel free to read my other articles on various subject.

Copyright 2021   Linda Meckler